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Can Social Skills Classes Ever Be Neuro-Affirming?
Most social skills programs are harmful, but is there a way to help ND people navigate NT social norms without making them feel bad?
Aug 20, 20243 min read


FAKE vs REAL: Communication Support
Communication support is a desperately needed thing for so many autistic people. Unfortunately, not everyone can deliver on their promises.
Jun 7, 20243 min read


FAKE vs REAL: Sensory Desensitization
Sensory desensitization sounds like something that could help, but reducing sensitivity isn’t a thing you should be trying to do TO someone.
Jun 6, 20243 min read


FAKE vs REAL: Frustration Tolerance
Building frustration tolerance sounds like a worthwhile goal. But adding more frustration is not the way to do it.
Jun 5, 20244 min read


FAKE vs REAL: Self-Regulation Skills
Self-regulation skills for kids are all the rage right now. Problem is that people think self-regulation can just be taught.
Jun 4, 20243 min read


FAKE vs REAL: Neuro-Affirming
The language of Neurodiversity is soooo hot right now. But you can’t just pop some neuro-word in place of “autism” and call it a day.
Jun 3, 20244 min read


What's with all the arguing about autism being a disability?
The first step towards understanding the problem is to realize how often we’re just talking past each other.
Apr 16, 20242 min read


Is a "lack of skills" really the problem here?
People reeaallly like to suggest better coping skills for autistic, ADHD, and otherwise ND folks. But what if the problem isn't actually us?
Mar 29, 20241 min read


MASKING MYTHS BUSTED: Autistic Masking = Acting Neurotypical
Autistic masking DOES NOT necessarily mean “pretending to be allistic/neurotypical," although you’d be forgiven for thinking it does.
Mar 19, 20242 min read


What's so bad about bedtime??
Apparently some people just go to bed and fall asleep. But if you or your child are autistic/ADHD, this probably sounds foreign to you.
Feb 15, 20244 min read


Defiance? Or something else?
Anything kids do that is anything less than “yes sir, right away sir” is often called DEFIANCE. But what if it's really the exact opposite?
Sep 22, 20233 min read


"But ABA doesn't work for PDA" - Umm, hang on a minute.
For one thing, we’re kinda throwing non-PDA Autistics under the bus here, even if it is unintentional. Typical autism strategies don’t...
May 17, 20232 min read


Is masking good or bad?
There are two questions I see most often in discussions about masking. One is, “What’s the big deal about masking? Doesn’t everyone have...
Feb 21, 20232 min read
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